Love is Blind (or is it?): The Role of Appearance in Relationships

Hey there! Have you ever heard the saying "love is blind"?

It's a classic, but let's be real, is it really true? I mean, do we fall in love with someone's personality, or are their looks the deciding factor? And once we're in a relationship, how much does appearance actually matter?

Well, I've done some research on the topic and I'm here to share my findings with you.

Attraction is definitely influenced by physical appearance, but it's not just about objective features like facial symmetry or body shape. Spoiler: It goes beyond that.

Our personal preferences, cultural norms, and situational contexts all play a role. For example, you might find someone more attractive if they share your interests, values, or sense of humor, or if they are in a high-status position or display confidence and charisma.

Moreover, attractiveness is not static. It can change over time as we get to know someone better, or as we age and experience life changes.
                    
For instance, you might find your partner more attractive after they do something kind or generous for you(eg. throw you a very beautiful birthday party or get you an amazing gift), or less attractive after they betray your trust or hurt your feelings(eg. if they cheat on you or hide a sensitive matter from you).

And once we're in a relationship, appearance does have an impact, but it's not the most important factor. So, what does matter more in a relationship?



Personality compatibility, communication skills, emotional support, and shared goals are all key factors in determining how happy and long-lasting your relationship will be.

But appearance can still affect your relationship in various ways. If you or your partner feel insecure about your looks, it can lead to lower self-esteem, lower sexual satisfaction, and higher jealousy and conflict.

On the other hand, if you or your partner feel confident and attractive, it can boost your self-esteem, sexual satisfaction, and mutual admiration and respect. Appearance can also influence how others perceive and treat your relationship.

For instance, if you and your partner are mismatched in attractiveness (either higher or lower than each other), you might face social pressure or stigma from your friends, family, or strangers. They will say things like, "What does he/she see in him/her" or " He/she is way too hot for you". 

This can affect your relationship quality and commitment, depending on how you cope with the external judgments. 

In the end, the best way to make your love last is to focus on the inner qualities of your partner and yourself. Be supportive, honest, loyal, and communicate openly.

Share your interests, values, and goals and most importantly, have fun and enjoy each other's company. 

Remember, beauty is in the eye of the beholder, but love is in the lover's heart.

So, don't worry too much about your appearance or your partner's appearance. Instead, focus on the things that truly matter in a relationship, and you'll be on your way to a long and happy life together. 

Leave a comment and let me know what you think about the topic.  

If you want to know why we are attracted to some people and not others, click here.